What is the “ego”?
The amazing Beyonce’ made a song a few years back called “Ego”.
It was very popular hit around the world, and I actually liked the song for a while. But that was because I wasn’t consciously aware of the message in the song, and the true meaning of an “ego”.
I’m in no way, shape, or form bashing Beyonce. I fuckin’ love Beyonce; I think she’s tremendously talented and stunning.
But what is the ego? . . . and is it really a good thing to have?
Simply put, the ego is a person’s level of self-esteem, or feeling of importance.
For most people, however it’s much more than just that.
For most, the ego is everything. It’s how people define themselves, and others too.
But let me be straight up with you because that’s the only way I know how to be . . . the whole concept of the “ego” is grade A bullshit.
The ego is the false self.
Thus, there is no point in defending an ego, nor in having one to defend in the first place!
That’s the truth about having an ego.
In order to let go of your ego, and reach heights in your life that you never saw possible, there are some key components of the ego that you must keep in mind. Remember, knowledge is power. Be knowledgeable about the ego, and you can beat it, and burn it for life.
Component 1: ”Who we are is what we have”
Think about how many people you know who judge or grade themselves based on their possessions?
Maybe even you’re like that. Hell, I know I was.
I thought that being successful meant driving a nice car, so I went and bought a Corvette, then a Mercedes-Benz.
I thought that being successful meant to get have a “respectable” corporate job, so I went and became an accountant.
I thought that being successful meant to wear expensive clothes, so I spend tons of money to “look good”.
All of this does nothing but feed the ego.
In order to drop your ego and reach your full potential, you first have to detach from ownership.
Stop giving so much praise to your possessions. They aren’t real, and they don’t mean anything.
Component 2: ”Who we are is what we do”
The second component of the ego piggybacks off the first–the misconception that our being or importance is based not only on what I have, what what is we “do”.
Another way to put it is achievement.
It’s the all-or-nothing approach to promotions at work, the money you’re making, and even competition with others.
Speaking of competition, keeping up with others is the perfect way to limit yourself and stunt your growth potential.
Always remember that who you are is never based on your so-called “achievements” or possessions.
Component 3: ”We are what people think of us”
This is my favorite one to talk about because in my experience, it’s been the most prevalent out of all the components.
That’s probably because it involves a little (or a lot) of the others. It’s called our “rep” or reputation.
At some point in time, I would bet that we were all worried with what others thought of us, whether it be family, friends, coworkers, or even total strangers.
There’s a good chance that you still give way too many shits what others think about you.
It’s not unnatural for humans to put their reps on a pedestal.
But when you have the power to take the illusion of your reputation off of that pedestal, and realize that it doesn’t matter one single bit what others think of you, only what you think of yourself, then you lift a huge weight off your shoulders.
One of my top authors to read and listen to is Wayne Dyer (you know that if you’re a regular reader of my blog). Anyway, in his movie The Shift, he made a point about reputation and the ego as a whole that really stuck with me:
If you’re consumed with how you dress, or if people like you or don’t like you . . . then you’re going to be something or someone different every time you turn around.
Think about it.
Component 4: ”We are different from everyone else”
This last component of the ego is one that I just want to touch on briefly.
So many people have it engraved in their minds that they are different from the world around them. They view themselves different from other people in society, and even separate themselves from God Himself.
It’s crucial to realize that separation is not cool, first of all, and more importantly it doesn’t get you anywhere.
We were all created in the same light from a higher Source.
Takeaways and Next Steps
If you read this post in its entirety, then you are now much more aware of what the “ego” is, and how detrimental it could be to your progression through life.
All of components of the ego are simple to overcome . . . all it takes is the decision and commitment to do so. That’s it.
So, the next steps for you are to obviously first decide and commit to losing your ego.
Then, you start (or continue) to live your life on purpose. This means, consciously being aware of egotistical moments and remembering to practice the teachings given here daily.
Commit to living life ego-free. Live from a grander principle than yourself, and watch the magic happen in your life.
If you’re committed to leaving your ego at the door, and shifting to a better “self” then I encourage you to enter your email address below this post and subscribe to my Personal Growth Circle totally free.
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